Originally Posted by CZZ74

MsL, this is so interesting, Im glad you are using your cane, alot can happen to the other side of your body by postponement. MsL, your current situaltion affords me the opportunity to ask some questions about mine, I hope you dont mine.

This was reversed a bit for me and with my wheelchair, I have to use the wheel chair to go anywhere that requires walking or standing for over 20 minutes or I can not go. My husband would keep saying do you really need your chair?/ over and over , eventually I just didnt go anywhere, My world with my husband has become very small. Different story with my sisters.
We went through this with the cane too,"do you really have to use that". The reason Im sharing all of this is because you too choose to work to be as normal as possible around your husband. I realize your situaltion may be completely different. But my question is have you found you have less pain now that you have the opportunity or situation to be alone and not need to do that? The reason I ask is because after a few days of trying to be normal when my husband is home I often think I wish could just live alone. I feel my acting normal creates so much additional pain for me that its almost intolerabe - Actually I know it does as I'm in bed the whole time my husband is gone recovering. Unless he is gone for two weeks, then by the second week my pain is better because i go at my own speed. SO basically I guess Im trying to find out, is the grass greenier in terms of pain on the other side? thank you so much. cz