I have one of those sisters too! are you sure we are not related?

My sis will have a competition with you.

I have the flu, she has pnuemonia. I have a belly ache, she has cancer. I have cancer, she has cancer that has spread! Most of what she says to me is sniper fire, venom filled, and it shows through her words, and deeds that she thinks I am a lucky lil snot who has had an easy life handed to her. She has never seen me struggle, nor has she seen me sick. She only gets to see me during recovered events.

If I am forced to retire, its because I am lucky and must have known someone in the higher up offices to be able to leave my job. When I got that job, it was because I knew someone, not because I was well educated, worked hard, and had a great resume. If I tell her, I have a lump, before you know it, half the town thinks I have been given last rights, and told to go home and die. She can really twist a story.

After years of dealing with this competitive, jealous behavior I figured out that she does these things because I have protected her from knowing just how hard my life can be. She never saw me throw up from Chemo. she never sees me half blind, and dragging a leg in a flair. She has never seen me freshly released from the hospital and too sick to cook my own soup. She only hears the good things from my mum. What a wonderful house I have, and all my friends, and how I get a check whether I go to work or not. No wonder she cant sort it out, and be a proper sister for me.

Maybe if you sat and had a conversation with yours, it may help cut through some of the veil. The thin line that separates you. I started asking mine for help (which I had never ever done before) and that was shocking to her. I turned down several invitations and that was shocking to her. I too live far from my family, and they dont get to see my everyday BS that I go through. All they have is their imaginations and gossip to rely on.

PM me anytime. happy to share more.