Thanks Deb. She is already living in an assisted living arrangement with buses, etc. They check on her everyday and she seems to like it there. She's lonely, that's the gist of it as far as her coming up here to live with me. She is capable of caring for herself. It's a tug of war getting her to let go but we also have to be understanding of what's she's gone through as well and Lord knows I am trying. haha

Her brother lives here in Joliet, I am here and her oldest son is also here in Peotone so I will have support to help care for her should that time come. She has already said if she gets to where she cannot do for herself we must, at her request, place her in the nursing home in her hometown. She's very serious about that. The only reason she was coming up here was so she wasn't alone down in Tennessee. All of her closest relatives have passed on and my sister is the only one left that she can really "hang" with so to speak. She used to live here many years ago, all of the children were born and raised here.

So, the living situation isn't so much a problem if she can get her nerves under control. Today she has been an angel and even listened while I talked about my concerns. I am beginning to understand that when she gets agitated it's best to let her be and go back to it another time. We all think the brain surgery is at fault for much of what's going on. She took her AD last night and she was fine today so we'll see.

I am still calling the doctor to voice my concerns. He wants her to live on her own as long as possible. I agree, we all agree to that. I've looked into places around here and they have the same type of apartments in the area if she feels she needs to be on her own. She admitted today that she's lived on her own so long that she doesn't know if she could do it. She said it wouldn't feel like her home even though Jim and I have told her it would be.

She is coming up to spend the holidays with us. She'll be here about a month and a half. Let's all pray it goes well without any issues.

Thanks Deb.