So when did you first hit the brick wall? You know, the place where it hurts so much you're certain continuing on without your loved one doesn't seem possible.

Perhaps you hit it right away - especially if your loved one's death was completely unexpected or particularly violent or if your grief involves multiple losses. You may have crashed into it later when everyone else's life went back to "normal" and you realized that yours never would.

Regardless of your personal circumstances, you're at the wall when you feel that even if God is going on before you into each day, you simply don't have the strength to follow.

If you haven't hit it yet, chances are you're going to sometime - perhaps after the initial numbness wears off. And don't be surprised if you hit the wall again - even after you thought you were past it. Grief experts call it
"the second wounding,: and it occurs as the reality of your loss begins to sink in at an even deeper level.

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When God & Grief Meet by Lynn Eib

from the chapter: Continuing On When it Doesn't Seem Possible