but not to hate yourself.

you can still be very attractive with ptosis, or even wearing a respirator mask on, or with scars from muscle biopsies, central lines etc. and even looking quite vulnerable and frail.

most other people will easily get used to the way you look, once you do.

don't warriors have scars to show their courage and the way they fought their enemies in the various battles they had?

don't sportmen have their own injuries and scars?

so why not us, who are fighting a constant battle and have to "run a marathon"?

and yes, it is hard to find energy for sex, and you have to get used to the fact that it just can't be as nice and spontaneous anymore. but, that's true for life in general isn't it. you can't just "decide" to go out with friends after a day at work.

alice