My mom once wondered what it must be like to live inside a head like that. Someone who always had to make live unbearable for people around them must really be miserable.

People who are happy try to make others happy, or they just DO make people happy, because they are upbeat and doing good things by their very nature.

She said mean people are their own worst punishment and I agree.

BTW, wishing the best for your relative who is trying to turn over a new uncluttered leaf! I've seen the show, and wow, the anguish those folks go through. I'm sure your support will mean the world to her.