I am not dx'd ms, but when I first got sick was pretty distressed. Never was a PMS-y kind of person, not one to cry much, but that first year of limbo cried and ranted a LOT.

And if that was bad, menopause is at least that bad or worse.

I have tried AD's for pain, but had bad reactions.

You say you have 2 grown boys, so your age may be a factor as it is for me.

I agree with the others though - it sounds like you need meds adjusted or maybe add another. Counselling is also good - best thing I ever did was find a good psychologist to talk to. Got good feedback and excellent advice.

Whatever you do, don't be too hard on yourself for feeling this way. Remember, it's not some little thing a person should be able to cope with - it's one MORE thing that's getting you down. Stress is not about one huge thing, a lot of times. It's about that last straw, lol.

Good luck!