From the sounds of things your hsuband was paranoid as well as depressed and psychotic. But the three can go hand in hand.

I can tell you just being a nurse in the mental health field for a short while made me petrified of ever getting mental illness. When I did get mental illness (or as it is known to be now a re-emergence) I did nothing for over 3 years. Nothing at all because I was afraid that I'd be locked down just for not being in the moment.

He would be afraid as well as unwell. You do need help and advice on this from some real professionals. Some forms of mental illness can make certain sufferers very cagey, avoidant, suspicious, and even afraid of their own family members, let alone Drs they don't know.

Please reach out to someone professionally on this site. They will be able to guide you so that you don't feel so alone or at a loss.

The rest of us will support you through it,

((((hugs))))
Rhiannon