HI Kim,

I am just going to say how I feel after reading your post. First, they sound like typical teenagers. My oldest daughter now 21, when she was about that age, It was a difficult time. I would refer to it as regression, she regressed to being a two year old again, I also called it the me, me, me, it's all about me stage, no one else just me, me, me! I didn't think as a mom, I was going to survive. Their frontal lobe has not developed yet, they can't really grasp what you are going through, they are trying to deal with what life is throwing at them right now. google, frontal lobe development in teens, see what you can find. They know what you're going through, they just show it differently. As you know, my daughter with RSD is 16 years old, and even though she is going through what she is going through, she is still a TEENAGER. Holy, Moly~ It's God's way of getting you ready to let them go, when they head off to College, become adults. You can look at this as a life lesson. Set limits, Kim. They need guidance, they understand what you are going through, they may not know how to show it to you. I know, because I am the family member without RSD. It's hard, you don't know what to say most of the time, we don't know how you are going to react, we don't know your pain, we only see it, we live it with you and it's hard to understand. Maybe some family counseling would be a good thing, but, if it is disrespect that they show you, there should be no room for that!

I am going to pray for your family, keep your chin up, I get dissed all of the time. We are parents and that's the way life is with teenagers. I've learned that when my teenagers start to raise their voices or they act like the me, me, me, two year old, I use a normal voice. I don't raise my voice and they have no idea what to do when there is no conflict. Take a deep breath count to 10, and know that in just a year or two you will be dropping them off in 2x4 dorm room, and you will CRY all the way home. You will miss the dissing days, and I promise as they hit 21 years they come around, but try to make it through, because you do not need to let this stress make your pain levels higher.

SandyS