the place on the gum where its really sore is back away from the 1st molar, its like the center side of the socket where it feels boney. There was a pc of white thing there that seems gone today but its sore in this area and thats well away from the exsisting tooth so this cant be from recession.

It seems like there is just a thin layer of skin over the bone and its sore.

I still dont see the connection between this and the biting pressure. I know when eating and your tounge is moving around and brushes against this area it is sensitive