I wish there was a book on the "right" things to say to those who are afflicted with illness.
I know so many who think it's helpful to say, "You can beat this...just be strong." Things like that can seem to say to some, "You're not trying hard enough." I am unsure that it's meant that way, but I know I feel guilty for feeling weakened by this disease...wondering if I could do more.
For instance, I like to exercise...but if I overdo it, I pay for it later in the day by melting into a puddle of molasses. But then I don't get in better shape unless I push it...it's a quandary that many people with illness face. How much should you push yourself?

We know inside how much we can push ourselves...we need to do what is best for us, not others. That is the guidepost we all should live by.