Hi, Hockey - I try to not say anything as I have learnt that I don't have a lot of control over what I say once I start - so I just don't start. Though I must admit that I don't practice that enough with my poor husband! I think that he knows that my brain is behind most of the tactless things that come out of it!

Unfortunately it also means that when I should really speak up I don't.

Sometimes I also take the approach that I am going to chose not to waste my energy on this by saying whatever! Hope you know what I mean. When my children were little and somebody had said or done something to upset them and they cried I remember saying to them that it was a waste of energy and tears crying about whatever it was and they would smile and agree.

Hope this helps - also children are a lot more understanding that you give them credit for - and alot more forgiving that adults are!

Lynlee

By the way - most of us posting on here have more understanding through our own research than the specialisst that we see - some of them are down right dangerous and have no idea of the damage they can cause due to their lack of knowledge.