I take Phillip's stool Softeners 1 x a day then 2x a day (before bed) to help. They now make a laxative pill that works with Magnesium. I have Benefiber everyday in morning coffee. Eat Fiber One (which DH calls "FIRE One".) Drink water all the time. Hear FDA has concerns now about thing that makes Miralax work, but OKs/likes Magnesium. Eat Apricots as a snack food. I don't know. Miralax (even in decreased dose) makes mess again and again while I try to sleep next night. I find, although I can't push, sitting at a regular time on toilet can encourage event. I try to be consistent. 20 minutes after coffee is my choice as coffee a natural diuretic and BM mover. Don't take my Vesicare until after event as don't want any action decreaser. Takes trial and error for me to find solutions. Good luck. Had a party to go to, was SO glad (sadly) to poop before going to party - one concern removed. Think about this more than I'd like.