I'm so sorry to hear you are having such a hard time.

Please take the quiet time you need, like Mari said. Don't be afraid of needing that, it is ok. I don't know what your life is like but things sure can get overwhelming at times.

Do you have a therapist or pdoc? If you do put in a call to them. If you don't, i might suggest looking into one. If there is economic difficulty with this, consider a licensed "counselor" with Master's, not PhD - these professionals are very affordable and just as helpful. They can't prescribe but it would be a start, and they can help you figure out if you need a pdoc or not, and perhaps refer you.

Do you have a place, physical space, where you can be, and not be disturbed? So that you can get some quiet time?

Also it might help to do some breathing exercises... slow, deep breathing with your tummy. Gently push out your tummy as you inhale, rather than pushing out your chest. Let your chest fill up after your tummy. When you breathe out, let all the air out. This breathing causes relaxation at a physical level. By the way, this is sometimes called belly-breathing, but also baby-breathing sometimes, because it is how babies breathe naturally. Then many of us "unlearn it." If you do any yoga, you have probably learned to breathe this way already.

Sometimes, for focus, it helps to put your hand on your tummy, watching it and feeling it go up and down. Also counting as you breathe in and then out. you don't have to have a specific count... just counting to keep a rhythm in your mind can be soothing, and helps keep your mind focused on the breathing action.

keep checking in with us, ok, and let us know how you are doing.



~ waves ~