Hi and welcome to NT!

It is beyond tragic when divorcing parents use their children to hurt each other. As a Mommy myself, I know there is nothing I can say that will ease the pain of being seperated from your son, especially at this time of year.

I hope it helps you a bit emotionally to come here and just talk. There are members here who have experience dealing with custody isssues, and as they return from their Holiday festivities, I'm sure they'll chime in with practical advice.

Remember that none of this is Shane's responsibility. He's only a child, and no matter what, he needs you to go right on loving him, behaving like an adult and acting is his best interests like the super Mom you are.