Dear Mari,

Bobby gave me another idea. is there the possibility - you can kill me now - of renting a studio apartment in your same housing complex that he can use... as a "studio" for work and storage?

that would be way more expensive. but the stuff would be more comfortably accessible... not like just left in a place where it cannot be used but must be fetched and... brought home to use.

whether i'm a true pack rat or not i don't know... i do keep things that i am attached to. all my stuff is in the cellar and garage (tantamount to a storage unit). i cannot "access" it, generally (entails going to hunt for/fetch - big PITA, and anyway no room to use it as the apartment is too small (or it would already be up here)!

however, if there is stuff your hubby actually doesn't feel a need to access at all, and only wants to keep it, he might feel ok about putting that portion in actual storage. i also wonder if there wouldn't be a sense of loss of control in doing that though.

storage is a very rational consideration. but OCD isn't rational.

that's what made me think of a studio for him, but it is kind of a scary thought - a whole other rental situation... and perhaps uncomfortably close to a separate abode. i don't know how YOU would feel about that either.

thing is, you guys clearly need to find a way to resolve this... you cannot expect to control your hubby's stuff or attitude towards it... that is his domain. he cannot expect you to survive without the space you need either. somehow, your keeping (getting!) your space and his keeping his stuff need to be reconciled, as i see it.

i wish you luck. this is a toughie.



~ waves ~