Tracy,
I think sometimes we have expectations that our family will always be there and understand our lives. But it is not reality always. So we find new friends and pray that one day our family will come around and understand what we go through. I have come to the understanding they dont get it and how sad that as a family we could grow from each experience we go through. Not everybody wants to grow and become better more compassionate people.
As far as your husband, look at it from a different side. He told you what he feels, now your job is to do what you can to validate his feelings and find ways to show appreciation. Words don't always do it. The first step in order for things to even begin to turn around is to say what we feel. And he has.We always take it in a negative way but if you could turn it into positive, however small ways, life will begin to change. God never promised us everything would be easy, but He would be there to help us and ask Him to put the correct people in your life and your husbands to help him get through this also. Take care of yourself and of your husband the best you can.