Hi,

While you are waiting for a psychiatrist appt (pdoc) , you can see your family doc to talk about whether some some benzos might be appropriate for calming your nerves.
The therapist (tdoc) can help you work out the decisions you are facing. Also you can feel stronger and less alone.

I don't know why they can medicate her so that at the very least she can can full nights of sleep. This sounds like very dangerous territory to me.
Talk to her doctor. If she is not sleeping more than 2 hours a night, she might be back in the hospital soon.

M.