Hi Allen,
Happy New Year !
I am sorry you are facing the new year with an important decision, which, furthermore, is a dilemma.

If there is no immediate urgency for this surgery,(i.e. emergency, horrendous pain, life or death) I would, as Pete suggests,
try and get another opinion, if at all possible. I know it can offend/irritate some docs if the patient pursues a second opinion, or questions the purpose or outcome of a surgery, but there seems to be too much doubt in your own mind, to go through with the surgery, without further research, further consultations with past doctors, or a fresh perspective from a different doctor, etc.

It concerns me that the team will not hear your concerns..after all it is your body/foot, and you know best the history of your injury and condition.

It is a dilemma, but you need to proceed in a direction that you feel comfortable and confident with, assured and secure.
I hope I haven't added conflict to your dilemma...
Hope4thebest