my dad has some mean and paranoid moments himself. he does not abuse any drugs, other than ice cream. i like dejibo's idea.

we are doing a bathroom remodel at the moment. dad fired the handyman with good cause so now we are doing it ourselves. dad gets angry at every little aggravation and blames any missing tool on the handyman stealing it. he says some hurtful things to me regularly. that and no working toilet two days and no bath/shower 2 wks has me depressed bigtime. when he sees me depressed its like he wants to rub it in. his motive is to pull me out of it but that is never the result. there are no missing tools btw. his paranoia is real because he can't remember enough to know we have found all the potentially missing tools. this has made it a miserable holiday. i want to crawl in a hole but can't relax for a minute till we have working facilities again.