Hi,
Cog Beh Therapy can help with this.
So can meditation.
Here are some links.
Also remember that there is a broad range in behavior. Some people are very controlling. Some are a little controlling. A little might be good sometimes.
And well, we learn behaviors like this when we are young -- in other words we learn at the feet of our parents.
I think that in some cases (my Mom) it is related to anxiety and ocd.
Mari
How to Stop Being Controlling
http://www.ehow.com/how_13300_stop-controlling.html
Dr. Phil Stop Being Controlling and Critical
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/93
Quote:
Embrace the spirit of acceptance.
If you fear that you may not be able to handle situations you may encounter, the need to be a control freak comes in. Most people have more resiliency, depth, strength and flexibility than they give themselves credit for. This means you. Trust yourself to handle all kinds of circumstances.
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Controlling Behavior – How Do You Attempt To Control?
http://www.familyresource.com/lifest...ling-behavior-
Quote:
Controlling behavior: Behavior intended to control your own feelings, control how people feel about you and treat you, or control the outcome of things.
All of us have grown up learning many different ways to control. We had to as part of our survival.
Perhaps you grew up in a family that used anger and criticism as forms of control and this became the role modeling for what you do now. Or you might have been a child who picked up on anger early, had temper tantrums, and you are still using anger as your primary form of control.
If anger and criticism was used in your family, you might have learned to respond to it with compliance by being a good girl or boy. You might have learned to put aside your own feelings and needs and go along with what others wanted in the hopes of controlling their feelings and actions toward you.
You might use care-taking as your primary form of control.
Or, you might have decided to go in the opposite direction and resist others' attempts to control you. You might have decided that having control over not being controlled is what is really important.
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