You are not alone!! Saying no is really hard. Not that I am an expert at it but I finally came to the realization that you have to take care of yourself first. I know this sounds so cliche but it's true....you can't take care of anyone else until you've take care of yourself.

I know it is easier said then done. I was brought up where you show no pain....emotions are a sign of weakness.....you suck it up at all costs and deal with it behind closed doors. These ways served me fine until I had developed spinal cord issues and now have lived with chronic pain for 5 years. I couldn't "suck it up" anymore because it was sucking the life out of me. I became a person that I didn't even want to be around!! However, once I started letting go and facing the fact that I can not do the things I use to do (trust me it took a long time and was not easy!), it became easier. My family and friends at first didn't understand but eventually they came around and are very supportive. I don't think I could go through it without them.

In time, you too will find your way and the ability to say no! It gets easier each time you say it! And with saying no, people will start to understand a little more of what you are going through. If they don't, it's time to determine if they are someone you really want in your support system?

Good luck and one last thought........saying no to someone can be like saying yes to you!!! Don't be so ready to give all of yourself away!