I was always putting other first, still do to a certain extent but have decided for my well being it can't happen as much anymore.

I am learning to say no and learning to make others see how important some things are to me and sometimes now I get the label controlling.

You can do this without the alcohol. I know how hard it is. Even though I've never had a problem with alcohol, I know how hard it is. Both my grandfathers were alcoholics, one died due to it. My dad's brother also.

I saw him sober for over 20 years and saw how hard it was for him at first, it got easier, but he said sometimes it would come back. He went back to it and within 6 months his liver gave out and he was gone. Now his son, my cousin, is fighting it. I hope he wins. At least we had my uncle for 20 years more than we would have if he hadn't been sober for that time.

HUGGS