I clicked on this site because my DH and I are the "overseers" of his parents, who are in independent living. It's been difficult to know how to discuss various issues with them, since they are loathe to give up their independence, even though FIL is blind and has Parkinson's and MIL has Alzheimer's.
This gives me added perspective in terms of MS and how my children regard me. I had to allow my kids to make Thanksgiving dinner this year due to surgery the week before; it was frustrating at best; I have to say I'm an excellent cook and make a mean spread
The lack of control was maddening, and I'm fairly healthy, compared to my inlaws. It has given me new perspective on their lives, and I am reading up on how to talk to them and give them autonomy...
MS can be a life teacher...if I let it.