Lynn said it best. You don't know what other people are going through at times. There might be more going on for her then just her husband's cold.

My feeling of friends is that they can't always be there for everything you go through but they are there when they are needed the most. When Bill was in the hospital in Denver, all of my friends came up there and stayed for 4 days with us until we had to take him off of life support. I don't think Susan and I were ever alone. They had to come 150 miles to be with us too.

The hardest part for me is that friends call me on the phone and I don't answer it nor return their calls. Depression keeps me from talking to people. I am going through that now, I think due to the accident in December and my PT. Luckily, they don't get mad. They know my situation.

We are living in a time where everyone seems to be going through something that is more then they can take. Financially, physically, personally. Friends call me with their problems all of the time. I must be a good listener. I usually don't get a word in edgewise but that's ok. They thought to call me in their time of need. It helps me forget what I'm going through. I also laugh a lot too, so by the end of the conversation, we usually have some good laughs.

Some people aren't going to stick with a person through the worst also. There are people that can't deal with sickness and unhappiness. Usually they are self absorbed.

Give your friend time, she will come around and if she is going through something she may eventually talk to you.

I think people can learn who their real friends are in the end. When all is said and done, they are still there whether you talk everyday or not.

Lynn, you are right. That line is stupid. Wheather you love someone or not, we make mistakes and you do have to say you're sorry.

KS, just keep smilin and remember things do get better and you have support here.

Ada