Mari-

First year of marriage, things were bad, I took hubby to a therapist I saw on my own about three times and she suggested bringing him to get him to talk about the situation. It was not a good visit, he admitted some things that I really did not want to hear about how hard it was with me and in retrospect, the words he said just stuck in my head for years. That was only one visit.

My husband when I have been out of the hospital, came with me to visit to therapist currently and basically for him to explain what has been going on more clearly than I could. She said she would see us together a couple of times if needed. I have seen her almost a year in February, so if need be I will, but I think it will just be a repeat him saying things and I would rather he just say them to me.