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Originally Posted by keep smilin
Hello everyone.. I have to toss this out there and please..all ...help me..but today I am feeling pretty sad as my dear bestest girlfriend..who has been so good to me the past 3 years...is so enthralled with her work (I understand that part...) and homelife with two dogs and husband obligations lately.. (sounds quiet compared to us having kids and the schedule xtra's, right??)..... Iam screaming..help..plz.. me... I am unraveling here..As some of you know, I just stepped away from my work of 25yrs. due to my RSD in my legs and no longer walk well enough to be there..not mention the spread I now have going on...Just today I mentioned to her it's not her work but plz fit me into some solo time and how I have called the last few weeks...invited her to lunch and seeked her out a bunch lately cuz I need my friend to possibly cry with me... but all I got so far was her work has been incredibly busy which she is so very sorry for and that her husband had a cold over her 3 day's off...so she couldn't visit with me... I have told her how devestated I am the longer I have been home (since 12/3/09) and how until one has to walk at 47 due to this reason..it's real pain that others don't know... so far no reply...
Okay everyone..guide me here.. I don't want not do I believe in pitty but this is the one person besides my husband and children that I have connected with almost everyday for 3 years...and she always said..how are you feeling?? I thinks she cares but due to her quiet life.. she over plays her demands... and I need her..
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I know you posted this a long time ago, but I can relate. I just got the RSD diagnosis in June of 2009. i was working (not easily) ,and I was still trying to pretend I could do stuff. Then I had to stop since driving home was becoming dangerous since my foot hurt so much. As to my friends, it is like I became a leper overnight. I have two friends that i talk to regularly. Some friends say they will come over as soon as I give them a time. So,I do, and for some reason, they don't come over. They call with an excuse. At first, I cried about the loss of friends (never mind loss of everything else).....still do sometimes. But I think what people cannot see, they cannot understand. I don't really want to take off my sock and show my ugly foot. I think trying to
take care of my new needs and figure out my new life. It isn't easy and i think it takes a long time. There are lots of people in same boat here. Maybe if you and she could do something together...like a movie? Or you would know better what might work. Just a thought. Good luck.