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Originally Posted by keep smilin
Hello everyone.. I have to toss this out there and please..all ...help me..but today I am feeling pretty sad as my dear bestest girlfriend..who has been so good to me the past 3 years...is so enthralled with her work (I understand that part...) and homelife with two dogs and husband obligations lately.. (sounds quiet compared to us having kids and the schedule xtra's, right??)..... Iam screaming..help..plz.. me... I am unraveling here..As some of you know, I just stepped away from my work of 25yrs. due to my RSD in my legs and no longer walk well enough to be there..not mention the spread I now have going on...Just today I mentioned to her it's not her work but plz fit me into some solo time and how I have called the last few weeks...invited her to lunch and seeked her out a bunch lately cuz I need my friend to possibly cry with me... but all I got so far was her work has been incredibly busy which she is so very sorry for and that her husband had a cold over her 3 day's off...so she couldn't visit with me... I have told her how devestated I am the longer I have been home (since 12/3/09) and how until one has to walk at 47 due to this reason..it's real pain that others don't know... so far no reply...
Okay everyone..guide me here.. I don't want not do I believe in pitty but this is the one person besides my husband and children that I have connected with almost everyday for 3 years...and she always said..how are you feeling?? I thinks she cares but due to her quiet life.. she over plays her demands... and I need her..
KS  |
Hi KS,
There is no doubt our lives have been turned up side down with RSD. It's a major change in our life and is bound to affect our relationship with family and friends. Before RSD, I had over 2 years of counseling due to the death of my parents. Besides weekly counseling, I attended grief seminars, and other various seminars.plus read about 50 books. One book that is basically a communication skills book is Life-skills for Adult Children by Janet Woititz and Alan Garner. It is in paperbook for $8.95. The following are some of the chapters: Making Contact With Others, Expressing Feelings, Active Listening,
Asking For What You Want, Giving Others What TheyWant, Solving Problems, Asking Others To Change Their Behavior, Handling Criticism, Establishing And Defending Boundaries, Fighting Fair, Ending Converstations, Ending Visits, Ending Relationships. When my daughter was about 12, her school counselor had a 2 week class for parents with these topics. It was really helpful in family communication. Journaling is also something I did in counseling and writing letters, but not sending them to resolve certain issues with individuals.
I hope the best for you. I think I sent PM to you, so please excuse me, if this is a repeat. Take care-your friend with soft hugs
