kicker your neighbor is right - no one will ever clean your house as well as you can. That being said when my DH or DD actually do things around the house I have to bite my lip not to criticize. I want them to do more and if I complain, they just won't do it anymore. I want them to do it and do it as well as I would but that ain't gonna happen. I am learning to coax them into helping more, even small things, and saying thank you when they do. I have been sick most of this week and my house looks like a mess. At least I did the laundry (as my daughter goes through the unfolded but clean basket of clothes for something she is out of), washed and changed the sheets and kept the kitchen clean. I have noticed I don't care as much anymore about having a super clean house but if I see it, I have to clean it!! I am dreading the day when I can no longer do the cleaning like I do. Kind of odd, something most people complain about we would love to be able to do like we used to.