all families are less than perfect, Alffe. Maybe being an "insider" I understand it better than those who haven't been there, and I will never understand everything about anyone's situation ( not even my own).But no family is perfect. I don't see your family as flawed. It's a real family with worse challenges than a lot of us have. I see your family as battered but strong, and a model for "going on through the fog".

And I understand about sharing things in public..you know how bad I am at that. BUT....it's how I came to know you and for that I will always be grateful.