That's the thing, he is not very nice to his mom, super strict (in my eyes) with his 8 year old, gets road rage when driving, and generally gets upset if a stranger looks at him funny. It's just with me that he is super caring and nice. I have a dog, and he is very good with my dog too. But it all just seems centered around me and things related to me. He is always hinting that if something happens with my job it will be okay because he will take care of me, and I have to keep telling him that as long as I can physically work I'm going to. I sometimes get the feeling that he has a real need to take care of me. He has gotten some panic attacks in the past, and I've noticed that once I'm there and he can "take care of me" that it all goes away, like tending to me is a distraction from the rest of his life.