I think sometimes its so hard to accept the help being offered. My mum will often say when she visits is there anything I can do? She means well and to be honest theres probably loads she could do but I always say no. I think its because I don't like to feel like I'm not coping or keeping on top of things.

It takes a long time to adjust for you and your family and there will be many bumps along the road. Being ill is hard and having to care for someone who is sick is hard. But if the roles were reversed you would care for your husband without a second thought.

It doesn't take away the guilt I feel not being able to do the things I used to, but it helps me cope.

Its early days for you and you will eventually work out a balance.

Love
Rach