Hi ABrown,
Please don't give up your research and your postings on the board! We need to communicate and keep in touch, even if it is infrequent! I often don't have time to post, especially during the week, but I am comforted, informed, and inspired by reading the posts of other RSD'ers...
When I read your post, and how your spouse is reacting, I had an idea of why he may be reacting this way.

It could be that he is intimidated or threatened by the friendships you are forming on the message board. Of course, I don't know the personality of your spouse, but could it be that he doesn't want to share you with the people you meet on the boards, and with whom you communicate your deepest feelings, thoughts, and your need for the special bond that exists amongst other RSD'ers?
I could be completely off the mark here, but I thought I would share my thoughts.
Please stay in touch amd take care of your needs!
Hope4thebest xoxox