prairiegrl,
I have heard withdrawl from benzos are horrible and I am sorry you are experiencing it. My very sincere condolences on the loss of your mother
Not everyone who uses Benzos becomes addicted. There are those that can and do use Benzos responsibly. I have used a Benzo for 6 years. I take it when I need to and never touch it if I don't need it. For me it's not a "quick" fix" but the difference between doing something very stupid, impulsive or losing control verses staying in control and being able to function normally.
All of those suggestions you made; go for long walks, drink some chamomile tea, listen to some music, etc. are great and I have tried them and more.