Dear Momlovestobake,

It is late in the evening and I hope you have found some peace that you needed earlier in the day...

Before RSD, I was the one who planned it all...the outings, the shopping, the cooking, taking care of everyone...my children are grown and live elswhere, now, but I was still the one to try and resolved their issues with them...I still over see my 98 year old mother who lives independently but is still 'dependent'..

I work full time (gotta work) and literally fall on the couch as soon as i walk in the door, from exhaustion and pain..

For months now, I've had to relinquish many of the tasks/things I used to do..
write the bills, shop, cook, cleaning, etc, etc. I had to..The pain consumed all my energy....I no longer cook, but I put a healthy frozen entre in the microwave, or make a salad..or a sandwich for dinner ..my spouse does his own thing for dinner, etc.

We each do our own small loads of laundry..I do what I can with the chores....I no longer write the bills, which I had been doing for years...now my spouse has taken over that task..

My wish for you, Momlovestobake, it that somehow your household gets reorganized to lift the burden from you of all the responsiblity..It's too much for you..

My dear friend, please try and let go of the tasks and chores that are overwhelming you..eventually your family will adjust and they will, out of necessity, (such as if they want to eat..they'll have to pitch in with the cooking..if they want clean clothes..they will have to do their own laundry...)

You need to have some time and energy to deal with this monumental transition in your life, the emotions around it, and the rest that you need, and to dig deep and find ways to cope internally..

I hope you awake tomorrow somewhat regenerated, with some ideas on gradually how to adjust your household to your needs...
Sending hugs of support
Hope4thebest