Now explain more? There have been times, it seemed like a solution? But it really isn't? Ask any veteran w/phantom pain syndrome! Then when the 'problem' is gone? The nerves simply don't seem to KNOW THAT! Easily nixed concept in my HMO.
Having gone thru this w/ a similar aged relative? How's she in the constipation dept? IS THAT what's really causeing the 'lady' lots of concerns? Rightfully so, but, there are a slew of medical and dietary options that can help in the quarter.. so talk to your docs AND your nurses! Nurses in senior facilities know about these things! AND can do good things w/diets that docs don't have to 'prescribe' meds for! And older ladies, are less likely to complain...except to you! Just be alert to the word "THEM" or 'they are out to do...' I'd always ask WHO 'THEY' Are and she'd just go...YOU KNOW!!!!!
That happens at that age? Frustrating, yet, communicating w/caretakers about such 'attitude'? Can help avoid problems in the future...

Your waterfall is perfect in my eyes! I bet the sound is so soothing! And yes, life beats on us from all directions? But we do survive! Better so for seeking advice from those here wiser than I am! [Actually I'm kind of jealous of that waterfall? ;}]
Keep faith and hope and a sense of some of the 'sillies' you will see during this course of your life...and, beleive me? There are a heap of silly things going on! Hugs 's and hope for now? But SPEAK UP! Please? - j