Gator...........Never feel badly or like you cannot share your thoughts because you'll bum us all out.....that's what we are here for and many of us have 'been there, done that.'

I think we are allowed a little pity party now and then.

Kathy....thank you for this thread. The timing matches my own mood so much

My oldest son made his Confirmation yesterday....which also involved having the family (22 of 'em) back to the house afterwards. My house has been disgustingly messy/dirty for awhile now. Not quite to the point of the "Hoarders" show, but close to many of the homes on 'Clean House' We couldn't have anyone over. My husband and I live like housemates and he considers it 'not his mess' So bad that when my boys (14 and 15) refused to help clean last December, I canceled Christmas.

So.....all last week was a cleaning frenzy. My pain was through the roof and I was well over the 4000mg per day limit on Tylenol because I was doubled up on my Vicodin all week. It wasn't just the actual physical work.....it was also the stress of working with 2 infuriating teen boys. I tell them to put something away, they leave with it and then don't return (start watching tv, etc) and then later I'd find out they just dropped the item in another room, but still not in the right place, so I'd have to call them back to move it again. Repeat 100's of times. Add comments like, "You'be been in pain for 6 years, learn to deal with it" and "Most moms take care of this, so should you." Yeah, it was a fun week Adding to my frustration, my best friend had major surgery on Thursday, and I wasn't able to get to the hospital to see her.

I was kind of hoping my blood pressure would go sky high and I'd just stroke out and die.

Somehow we survived it. At least the first floor was fully presentable. I thought I would pass out having to stand for so long in Church, but I made it through in my new dress and 'full battle hair and make-up' The party went fine. My sister helped a lot. Husband finally helped by going to the grocery store beforehand and cleaning up afterwards.

I spent 15 hours in bed with ice, cervical traction, and drugs.

Hauled my butt out of bed today so hubby could try me to my EMG appt. Talked to my doc about the Tylenol issue and he is going to try me on a compounded cream and Methadone. Maybe there is hope.......

14 yo asked me to go out to the hot tub with him tonight. We had a great talk. He agrees to help with keeping the rest of the house clean if I don't hound him about cleaning his room. We talked about sex , booze, and drugs and waiting til your older and which of his friends have already tried stuff.

Just when I'm about ready to give up, those special moments come when you know why you have to keeping trying to haul your butt out of bed everyday