Thanks for that Dahlek,

Dads in a nursing home, its a wonderful place, full of caring and concerned carers, just as I was there, one came in and as she left touched his hand and told him to let them know if he needed anything.......

Yes I have been asking questions for years, sometimes I sit and write down on his computer all the things he's telling me, cos I know one day he won't be there to talk to.

Today I showed him one of the Improv everywhere stunts, It gave him a smile. He held my hand and said I'd brightened his morning, as he was having a bad morning. I just have to get strong, and go and visit alot more often, and put aside my angst.....he needs me, and I need him.

I'm starting on family geneology, so will have to take stuff up to pick his brains.
Its just sad that after an hour he's exhausted and falling asleep....still better than nothing.
thanks for your kind words, it helps comming here and getting everyones support
Kate