[QUOTE=hopeful;657169]Hi,
I think I just had a light bulb moment. The part you said about mourning your old self. I think I have not even begun to mourn my past self.

*** Exactly. Over the last 9 months my mother's dementia has progressed to the point that she is now living separately from her husband of 63 years in a secure Memory Unit. I couldn't understand why I was suddenly impatient and angry more often. A quick visit to my therapist put it in focus. I'm already in traditional grief over her loss -- even though she's still here in some form. And perhaps the intensified experience with Kaiser is forcing me to begin to accept what I have lost. Trouble is, when I begin to do that out loud -- it sounds a lot like whining.

*** Here -- I think it is safe to whine and mourn.

*** I'm sorry for your loss :-(