Oh Erin! it really does sound like stress is the key word of your corner right now, and stress...well, stresses me out! my sx go crazy when I am overly stressed, and I get all sorts of sx that pop up and go crazy.

I too have one of those sisters that has zero idea of how badly she impacts those around her, and has a Tough Patootie attitude if you confront her. Since I cant change her, I CAN change me. Can you schedule time at your b/f house when you know she will be in town? or taking over the house? Can you just close your door, and watch tv? order a delivery of food for your own door? As for the neice riding the chair like a horse, you did the right thing, just remove the remote. Little kids like things like that, and she was just being a kid after all. If her momma would take control and teach her...(not going there) and you do have your own space in your parents house. Your parents simply cannot refuse to allow one child to be home, and not the other. It just isnt fair. Even if one is handicapped. If the door is open to one, its open to the other. I am sure you get that.

I hope you take some time to relax. Do yoga, meditate, zone out, get out of that house, take a mini day trip, take some ME ME ME time, even if its just a bubble bath with the door locked. I know you have worked hard to take care of mom, but you also need to take good care of you.

My world changed dramatically when I stopped trying to change my sister, and started changing the way i reacted to her. I now view her as sad, lost, and unable to control herself. I cant get mad at a rooster for crowing at the dawn light, any more than I can get mad at a goat for chewing things. She is the animal she is, and me getting mad wont turn her into a princess. PM if you want to talk.