Thanks Mrs. D. for all the information.

I will run everything by his doctors and update on these boards.

Oh, by the way. Alan read the post. He said to me "why do they think I don't communicate with the doctors?" "I just don't like to post on the boards, but I talk to all my doctors".

I laughed and said "who massages you?" He smiled and said "you got me there".

But I told him from now on he has to take a more hands on approach when we go on appointments. I mean, what if something happens to me?. He agreed. So he goes on Monday for the pre-testing (he doesn't need me for that) and I'll be there with him for the spinal tap (for support in the recovery room). He is taking a more pro-active approach in his health (losing weight, exercising, yoga, etc.)

I have to put me first sometimes too and he understands that. We are really going through a very hard time with our son being mentally ill and being so far away. Sometimes it's surreal what we have been through.

Some days we deal with it, some days we walk around and go "why".

But we shall get through this also. We always do.

Thanks much.

Melody