I'm so sorry
woodhaven.
I haven't lost a spouse, but I have lost several babies, both my parents and my brother. I know that my own pain is much different to your's but I wanted you to know that I have some idea of what you might be going through, and that I feel for you.
Kitty had some very good advice and I hope you find it useful.
Please know that you're in my thoughts and prayers.
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