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Old 07-02-2010, 11:07 PM
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Unhappy Hubby and I had a session w/tdoc that did not go very well

Hi,

He was exceeding anxious and wound up.
He seemed to think that this was his opportunity to talk about the things that are bothering him. He was not interested in how tdoc might be able to help us. He kept talking.
There was no way for tdoc to even get in more than a few words or a question to guide him toward something.
I told him to take a break. He kept talking.
I reminded him that we had limited time.
He kept talking.

Perhaps I am aware now that he is bothered and concerned more than he tells me.
He told tdoc that my parents should have been told about my stroke and that they should have been involved.

HELLO. I told my dad 48 hours later from my cell phone in the hospital and gave him all the relevant info about the tests and so on. Dad told my sister my speech was fine -- when it was not.( )
When I got out of the hospital I called my mom. We talked about gardening for an hour.
He's upset that mom and I spoke about gardening.
Seven weeks after the stroke they came to visit for Labor Day weekend and neither hubby nor parents mentioned the stroke.

He had lots of other things he needed to talk about.
I don't know what his real problem is.
I'm certainly not in the mood to deal with it now.

I was very upset that we did not get anything done for the two of us at the session. We did not cover any ground except for letting him vent.
I feel that he was being very selfish.

On the way home we stopped to buy vegetables at a market.
When we got home, I ignored him.
A few hours later I thanked him for coming to the session.
Then I went back to ignoring him.

M.
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