i too think it might be time for you to start a search for a new therapist.
it really sounds as if your husband is pulling you down. i don't know what to say because i have never been married and don't know how much give and take there should be in a marriage. Is he out of control or only under certain conditions? Is he asleep when you are up most of the time? and are you asleep when he is awake? It sounds as if you are in such an uncomfortable position.
bobby