hi

the thing is to tackle it gently. push the envelope but only push it a little bit at a time. it will get easier but it won't seem like it at first. maybe ask yourself to go out at a certain time, and to start getting read a half hour before (or however long it takes you to get ready). at that time, start getting ready but try not to think ahead. get as far as you get. when it gets too hard say, well, i got that far, and that's that. every day might be too much at first. you can't eat the whole cake in one bite. you can only cut a slice. but then you can only take small bites of the slice. chew and swallow one bite before taking on the next.

something i would tell myself which helped keep the pressure down, was "i don't have to do this, but i'm going to try to anyway. if i can, it will be good."

i got to where i was totally stressed out having to take showers, and would get fatigued by them. i couldn't figure out how it got that bad. but now i'm back to where i can take a shower and not feel overwhelmed by it. and i clean up afterwards almost without thinking. but it didn't get back to that overnight. for a while, it was a big production every time.

love

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