Coffeegirl,

I think your husband is on to something. You're not giving up spending time with your kids--you're just finding different ways to do it. What's important is to spend time with them. It is gigantic adjustment, though--like learning to be a mother all over again, I bet. But you are so right to be proud of your sons. There's nothing good about being sick, but good things can come out of it, and having kids who are used to the idea that other people have needs, too--that's one of them.

Hang in there,

Abby