I've lost count over how many relationships I personally watched erode away as RSD ruins another life. From my view, I'll never accept that RSD is the cause of any decent relationship actually breaking up, but I do see that those who are already having additional problems long before the RSD hit in many situations can't take one more thing. In your case the RSD was just one more thing.

Hopefully you two will stop looking at only one cause for your relationship breakdown, but will look at all the issues that have drawn the two of you apart and then figure out if you still have enough love and desire to fix the problems and put your lives back together or if there really are irreconcilable differences that can't be fixed now or ever.

Personally speaking, I know well the additional burdens RSD can bring into a relationship, so we've just got to do anything and everything it takes so these additional problems don't tear apart both the person and the people anymore than it need to. Instead of throwing all our problems in one big pot and mixing it all together, I find it's always it bit more manageable if you keep each issue and concern separate and then deal with each to the best of your abilities. Then for the things you can't fix or change, accept that's just the new way things are going to be and go forth.

Here's hoping that the two of you will figure out that the two of you can always handle any problem better as a unit than you can alone, because even though you've broken up, the problems are still there. Instead of allowing the problems to tear you apart, my hope is that your commitment to each other will be great enough that you'll work the problems together for a common goal and that your life will once again be whole. Bob.