This is what we finally found out. She has severe rectal muscle weakness and doesn't even use the rectal muscle to go. She is using the muscle that wraps around the rectal muscle and when you use that muscle it just tightens instead of relaxing like it should. So, biofeedback we will try for that. With the GERD, the test showed that she was having bile and acid up in her throat with episodes lasting for over an hour at each time with constant stuff up in there. The are recommending a fundoplication so we will consult with a bariatric surgeon for that. Not really wanting her to have that done. A lot of research and second and third opinions needed for that. It has lots of side effects in itself and is non reversible. So, that is what we have found out. Going for an MRI of the spine to make sure fluid is not back causing all this anyway. Also, going to get celiac testing done and other stuff before proceeding with ANY surgery of ANY kind. Thanks so much for everyone helping me figure this out. Always get so much better advice on here than at the doctor. Thanks again.