SuzyQ - I understand where you are - sorta/kinda - my husband had 2 ruptured aneurysms (front left side) and emergency clipping and craniotomy (spelling) December 11, 2009. He was in ICU for 2 weeks and got to come home right before Christmas. He had to go back in February to have bone flap replaced.
Thankfully, he is recovering well, but will be a long time before he is totally back to 'normal' - if ever. The doctors are amazed he has done as well as he has. He still has extreme fatigue, s/t memory problems, confusion during stress, tired, etc. , headaches, pressure.......you know, lots of small things.
He has not been able to go back to work and no work in site. They dont know if he will ever recover enough for work. Needless to say, being the total breadwinner of the family now has made quite a change in our lifestyle (budget). Plus trying to work 2 jobs to keep us going and help take care of him at the same time has been very stressful for me too. I am just taking it one day at a time and we are doing the best we can. I am very, very thankful that he has recovered as much as he has and we are praying for continued recovery.
I realize this is a very long post (and apologize for that) - but I want you to know that even though our situations are different, they are also similiar. I will keep you and your husband in my prayers and hope things get better for him (and you).