Lonelyone


I have been thinking.............would you say your extremely shy ..in so much that you physicaly find it hard to hold a conversation?

if yes there is a condition called Selective Mutism, usualy found in children but some continue into adulthood...[it is a known condition and with therapy curable]


if at present you find it hard to convey your life to a doctor.........say for 3 months give this ago and see if you feel any different.
http://www.ivillage.co.uk/food/news/...1110-1,00.html
this is just one site but there are many 'MOOD FOR FOOD' sites.......some list full daily diet plans that incorporate all foods for a balanced diet and healthy mind..........[i am looking for the link i used at work 6 years ago to develop a diet for clients....but cant find it but will keep searching]

then there is cognative behaviour therapy............you could even do it on line......[some charge....but it could be worth it].............it helps indiviuals look at life from the here and now....and clarify positive and negative thinking....and put it into factual rationalisation]

i tried this in my earlier reply to you.

CBT makes you see things clearly and helps your brain recognise signals and then transmits the way you respond ...rationaly......

for example and i quote " Inevitably someone notices me sitting awkwardly, so they try to fix it by asking me about myself. Then I have to watch them become less interested in me as they find out how boring and pointless my life is."


CBT would teach you to imagine the other persons response to you...lets say i am the person you describe above.
i might say to myself
" I wonder why that guy is quiet, i wonder if he is like me, shy?...maybe i will go over and say hi" half way through our conversation i may say to myself " he is still not saying a lot, maybe he does not like me...i will be polite and move around the group...i hope i havent bored him with my life'

CBT could teach you to act and not react.....at no point is our perception of others 100% correct its just how our brain transmitts what we see and hear into a feeling.......the feelings we recieve react to our emotions........... and our emotions then...interpert how to react....[often by what we have learned as children]


if someone in the past said your boring once and then a hundred times......the chances are you ...then believe every rebutle from human contact be associated with you thinking...that person thinks your boring......

CBT is about training your mind to alter an emotional stimulant............... and think objectively before responding.

i am going on a bit now so i will go.....i just thought you may want to look at all your options, ..................a daily diary including all you eat and drink aswell may help a health professional recognise your dilema..


David

just trying to help